Society tells us that when things don’t work out we are supposed to beat ourselves up.  And that is exactly what we do. When we are experiencing frustration with our choices or decisions, we may punish ourselves. This comes in many forms, like restricting ourselves from enjoying good things or engaging in negative self-talk.

Happy New Year! It’s the season of resolutions, goals, and choosing a word for the year. As we start thinking about our goals and strategies for what we want to accomplish this year, I want to remind you that we are not human doings, nor are we human havings, we are human beings.

Today we are chatting with my client and general life coach, Saprina Allen. Come be a fly on the wall and listen in as we discuss her experience with being a coach and also coaching with me.

Our guest today is Mars Lord. Mars is a coach, a birth activist, a doula educator, and the leading voice about black maternal mortality and health in the UK and beyond. She has also spoken to Parliament and can be found on the record in the history books for her work with black maternal health.

Thought work is a tool for revealing your brain to yourself. It helps you bring awareness to the sentences that are floating in your head, the feelings you have because of those thoughts, and the action you take as a result of those feelings. And like any tool, it can be used for us or against us.

In general, we tend to make an effort to be kind to others by reminding ourselves to pause and intentionally reflect on our words and actions, asking ourselves whether they’re of benefit to others.

I love to observe my clients and share with them the patterns that I notice. Their habits, their groove because once we know our patterns, we can prepare for it.

I love to observe my clients and share with them the patterns that I notice. Their habits, their groove because once we know our patterns, we can prepare for it.

Self-discovery is a process where a person is guided, through self-questioning and examination of one’s own thoughts, words, and actions, in order to reach their own conclusions regarding who they truly are. This is at the core of the work that our guest, Ashley Rhodes, focuses on in her practice as a life coach.

Do you find yourself quitting things a lot? Whatever it is we want to achieve in life, no matter how much we want it, there will always be times when we hit a challenging period, our motivation hits a wall and we feel like giving up.

Have you ever noticed that when you are in a difficult situation the motivation that you need to get out of it seems to come easy compared to when you are in a good situation but you desire more?

For the most part, we recognize that if our past was not so good, our brain tends to use it against us by constantly providing evidence of past mistakes to justify the current goal won’t be realized.

Black women are forced to conquer dual challenges in the workplace as members of two minority groups. We have to deal with the disadvantages of not just being a woman, but also being black.

We’ve been taught that our future success is based on how successful we have been in the past. The thing is, if most of us looked to our past to determine our future success, we would not have any hope of creating the desires of our hearts because our brain is going to tell us every little detail about our failures.

Disappointment is the unhappiness you feel from the failure of something hoped for or expected to happen. This is the internal fear that you experience when it comes to wanting and desiring more. For a lot of us, we don’t want to desire because we’re unwilling to experience disappointment.

Why do we give so much credence to what others think of us? The truth is that we are responsible only for ourselves, and our own feelings. We are not responsible for the feelings of others, and we do not cause those feelings to surface.

Why do we give so much credence to what others think of us? The truth is that we are responsible only for ourselves, and our own feelings. We are not responsible for the feelings of others, and we do not cause those feelings to surface.

Why do we give so much credence to what others think of us? The truth is that we are responsible only for ourselves, and our own feelings. We are not responsible for the feelings of others, and we do not cause those feelings to surface.

Our brain will offer us all kinds of thoughts, especially the thoughts it’s used to thinking. But just because these thoughts are familiar doesn’t mean that they are useful. Our brains are doing what it was designed to do. It’s being efficient but we don’t want our minds running loose with destructive or unmonitored thoughts. Therefore we must monitor the thoughts and then manage and redirect them.

Our brain will offer us all kinds of thoughts, especially the thoughts it’s used to thinking. But just because these thoughts are familiar doesn’t mean that they are useful. Our brains are doing what it was designed to do. It’s being efficient but we don’t want our minds running loose with destructive or unmonitored thoughts. Therefore we must monitor the thoughts and then manage and redirect them.

Our brain will offer us all kinds of thoughts, especially the thoughts it’s used to thinking. But just because these thoughts are familiar doesn’t mean that they are useful. Our brains are doing what it was designed to do. It’s being efficient but we don’t want our minds running loose with destructive or unmonitored thoughts. Therefore we must monitor the thoughts and then manage and redirect them.

Are you on the journey to get your life? Then it may be time to think about life coaching. A life coach acts as a guide to assist you in retraining your mind by adopting new ways of thinking.

As I reenter the world of dating I have been self-coaching on how I feel about this process. I find myself pondering the thought of how we show up to a date with the intention to actually get to know the other person and determine if there is a connection

We all know that life comes with unavoidable physical and emotional pain. That seems to be a non-negotiable part of the deal. The negotiable part is how much time you will spend worrying about it.  If you have a legitimate reason to be stressed; then let yourself...

In this episode, I discuss a few random topics that I have on my mind. This is a rant where I coach you through some thoughts that may be blocking your potential.

Did you know that Black women are 80% more likely than women of other races to change their natural hair to meet social norms or expectations at work? Narrow beauty standards make it difficult for black women to freely celebrate their own beauty.

The need to succeed is a natural human desire, yet for Black women, our success is beyond simple bragging rights or a pat on the back. Our success represents something bigger than our own personal victory.

A life coach is someone whose expertise is to support you in enhancing your life. A life coach acts as a guide to assist you in retraining your mind by adopting new ways of thinking, which can involve replacing harmful beliefs with positive and affirming ones in order for you to reach personal and professional fulfillment.

We are not our thoughts. Thoughts are merely thoughts, they do not paint the picture of who we are. It’s not our thoughts themselves that bring things to fruition, it’s our actions. And so it is important to manage our thoughts so that we will take actions that will actually serve us.

Our minds contain many different perspectives, and they can empower or demotivate us. The self-talk in our heads is responsible for so many of our failures and why we think the way we do. Oftentimes we dismiss our thoughts because it seems rational or accurate but it is not always true.

Women swear sometimes so let’s get over it. Patriarchy punishes women for profanity because it wants us to forever remain within the straitjacket of niceness and politeness. Well, I say F**k the patriarchy.

Do you feel like you’ve accomplished a lot, but you still have more big scary goals that you want to achieve? You tell yourself “things are great right now, I don’t want to mess it up by starting something new”. Although you try to push those goals to the side, they remain persistent.

It’s easy to have high aspirations. It’s much less easy to make those dreams and goals a reality. The truth is, many of us struggle with committing to bet on ourselves and go after our dreams and goals. Instead, you settle for the status quo.

You are in for a treat with this episode! I am joined by a special guest, Dr. Koritha Mitchell. Listen in as we discuss homemade citizenship, the concept of creating your own belonging; discursive violence, the cruelty of stereotypes determining people’s impressions regardless of what you do; and know-your-place aggression, the backlash against Black and Brown success.

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are necessary to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset. Success in reaching our goals is determined by our mindsets. When you believe that we can achieve a goal our energy and actions will reflect that also.

When we know how our mind works, we begin to see our thoughts in a new, truly empowering way. When we truly see the nature of thought for ourselves, our thoughts no longer have the weight they used to.

Relationships are challenging and when you enter a relationship while toting along all sorts of baggage and actively hiding parts of yours yourself in an effort not to appear as the angry black woman, this can cause stress, anxiety, and resentment.

The angry black woman stereotype shapes how others read and interpret the actions of Black women including how we treat our men. The angry black woman is portrayed as a woman who is stubborn and unreasonably quick to anger who enjoys emasculating the men close to them.

In this episode we will focus on how the black woman’s experience is unique to that of black men and white women because even at home when we are relieved of the racial burden we are still carrying the load of the gender bias due to the Patriarchy. The patriarchy punishes women for having an opinion about anything because it wants us to forever remain within the straitjacket of niceness and politeness.

Today we are continuing the series on the angry black woman stereotype. We are on a mission to reject the labels society has assigned to anger and will instead choose to see anger as an emotion that is part of the human experience and a tool that can help you become a better person. In this episode, we will be focusing on how to use your anger for you.

Today I have another client spotlight for you. This story is amazing and I am sure that you will gain some valuable insight that you can apply in your own life. My guest today is Angela. Angela is a rock star and her transformation has only made her light shine even brighter. You will hear as Angela shares her journey from being a high –achieving woman who focused on all the actions

I love the quote that says “other people’s opinion of me is none of my business”. It is so true. When others say something critical we tend to feel negative emotions about what was said because we make their judgments mean something about us in our minds.

Why do others get the right to be angry and not black women? Why are we charged with managing how others see us as if that is even possible? We are entitled to feel our anger and any other emotion. This is part of our experience and should not be shunned because of society’s narrative. If you have been conforming to this cultural stereotype, then I want to encourage you to start today by giving yourself permission to be angry.

Is your mind stuck running on a hamster wheel that you can’t get off of? This is when your mind goes round and round with intrusive repetitive thoughts leaving you stressed out and exhausted. In today’s episode, my client Marcia will share with you her experience on the mental hamster wheel and how she used coaching with me to put her thoughts in check

If we want to evolve and grow into something more, the best gift that we can give ourselves is to love ourselves where we are, accepting ourselves where we are, and saying I want to choose something different as opposed to needing to change. The word need suggests that the desire is a requirement, duty, or lack of something deemed necessary

Happy Black Girl Magic day #BlackGirlMagic! Today we celebrate the beauty, power, and resilience of Black women. This episode is especially important to me because as you know my passion is to serve high-achieving Black women. #BlackGirlMagic is all about celebrating yourself and celebrating your sisters.

Did you know that the most important relationship that you can cultivate is the one with yourself? Having a relationship with yourself is, like any relationship, difficult and full of ups and downs.

Have you ever had the thought “I am not capable or qualified enough for it”? This is often referred to as the imposter syndrome or limiting self-belief.

When we set goals it’s inevitable that we will struggle with mind drama. Mind drama is the drama that we create in our minds by setting a goal that our brain doesn’t yet know how to achieve

Now that we’re well on our way to shifting our goal relationship status from convenience to committed, how do we maintain that commitment to be able to see the goal through to completion? The key ingredient to staying motivated on our journeys and to remain in the...

Today we are continuing our conversation about our goal relationship status. So last week we discussed three goal relationship statuses, the committed (‘til death do us part), the live-in (I’m good until you try me, then I’m out), and the booty call (you’re my little secret, no one knows you exist).

Commitment is one of the key ingredients for being successful in your goals. If you’re not fully committed to a goal, then the goal is just convenience. You’ll give up too quickly, work with less determination, and make unintentional decisions.

As we move into the goal-setting season, I want to challenge us to take some time to recognize where we are and what we have available to us before setting those goals.

We may believe that self-love is simply a state of feeling good because of the actions that support our physical and mental growth. But it’s a bit more dynamic than that.

Amazing things can happen when we start loving ourselves more. This means loving ourselves through all seasons of life. Good things and bad things happen to everyone, but the individuals who are most happy are the ones who manage both with ease and grace.

Celebrating ourselves means taking time to recognize and acknowledge what we’ve done. Unfortunately, many of us don’t take the time to celebrate our life and our daily accomplishments.

Do you keep on promising yourself that “one day” you’ll go after your goals, but you just can’t seem to push yourself outside of your comfort zone?

We have thousands of thoughts running through our minds at any moment and so whatever we choose to focus on and think is what our brain will seek evidence to prove.

In today’s episode, I want to share with you a concept called the motivational triad. This concept is crucial because it explains how our brain works and why we do some cray-cray things.

Do you know that you have greatness within yourself? Yes, you are a masterpiece. Society tells us we need more, something outside of us to COMPLETE US.

Welcome to Breakthrough with Brig! I am so happy that you are here. Thank you for taking this journey with me. This podcast will focus on the use of thought work to help you break through barriers and become your best self.