In a world that keeps preaching on and on about self-love, it’s hard to believe that self-love is not easy. In fact, self-love, much like other forms of love, takes work, time, and patience to cultivate.

We’ve been sold this bill of goods that says love should come easy and if you have to work for it, then maybe that’s not love. Queens, I am calling BS on this. Listen, there’s no autopilot for love. Self-love does not happen naturally and we must stop being judgmental and critical of ourselves based on this lie.

So, why is it so hard to love ourselves? Why can’t we just believe the books and the experts that tell us we are so much more than we feel we are? Well, I don’t have all the answers to why practicing self-love is so hard, but I do have some ideas on how you can start to cultivate this practice. 

Press play and listen as I share how to learn to trust, accept, and love ourselves.

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Maggie Reyes, Marriage Coach – https://maggiereyes.com/ 

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The podcast that teaches High Achieving Black Women how to use thought work to be her absolute best self, no matter the situation.

She will learn how not to let outside influences impact how she thinks and feels about herself or how she shows up in the world.

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Episode 96 – What I Really Help My Clients With

Episode 96 – What I Really Help My Clients With

In a world that keeps preaching on and on about self-love, it’s hard to believe that self-love is not easy. In fact, self-love, much like other forms of love, takes work, time, and patience to cultivate.

Episode 96 – What I Really Help My Clients With

Episode 94 – The Value of Coaching Series with Karen Livingstone

As high-achieving women of color, we know what it feels like to walk into a room and be the only one who looked like you. To be asked your opinion on a project that lacks diversity and inclusion. To frequently be asked to participate in conversations where the expectation is that your opinion speaks for all voices from your community. And not be able to talk about specific topics that are important to your culture because no one around you can relate from personal experience.

Episode 96 – What I Really Help My Clients With

Episode 92 – Paying Full-Price, WAT??

To explain this point I will use the example of a purchase. When it comes to making a purchase, we often get really excited when we are able to get the hook up on that purchase or obtain it from a sale. Notice that in this scenario you experience a dopamine hit. This is because getting the hookup creates a feeling of pleasure and reward, which motivates you to repeat a specific behavior.

Episode 96 – What I Really Help My Clients With

Episode 91 – The Hope of Our Wrongness

Have you ever felt that when bad things happen, that must mean that you are not a good person, like, karma has come to get you? And so you go on a search to find what is wrong in hopes of fixing it so that everything will be good again.

Episode 96 – What I Really Help My Clients With

Episode 90 When Wrong Feels so RIGHT!

Most of us know that dopamine is called the seeking hormone, the feel-good hormone but did you know that dopamine can also be called the predictive hormone?

Episode 96 – What I Really Help My Clients With

Episode 89 – Owning our Freedom!

How often do we push something to the side when we can’t decide on what to do or what we want, simply because we don’t want to own our decisions?

Each week, Life and Mindset coach, Brig Johnson, combines coaching, a little bit of neurobiology, and practical easy to use tools to empower you to break barriers and become unf*ckwithable.