If you are old enough to have played Candyman as a child you can remember entering a dimly lit room (usually the bathroom), standing in front of a mirror, and saying the name “Candyman” five times in a row. The expectation is that the monster will show up behind you. This experience caused you to intentionally put yourself in a scary situation. I remember being so scared that I would never make it to the count of five before flipping the lights back on.
Here is the thing, some of us are still playing Canyman with ourselves. We have painful experiences in our past that we constantly bring up when we want to do epic shit. I get it, playing Candyman with ourselves, intentionally scaring ourselves, prevents us from doing or creating the same thing again in the future but this is hindering our progress and growth.
Rather than viewing your past from a place of fear, you can view it from a place of empowerment. Tune in to learn how to make this shift.
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EP. 122 Redefining GOODT ENUFF
In this week’s conversation, I’m expanding on the discussion started in last week’s episode, EP. 121 Bad Things Happen To Good Girls, around the good girl syndrome. Last week I shared that we think if we are living by the standard of the good girl, then the good girl doesn’t have problems, and so we believe having a problem is a problem, but it’s not.
EP. 121 Bad Things Happen To Good Girls
From childhood, many women are socialized to please others, at the cost of their own well-being or needs. The world is screaming: If you’re good, nothing bad will happen to you. And so we adopt the idea that good girls don’t upset people, good girls don’t put herself first, good girls don’t disappoint others.
EP. 119 Our Bodies As Property: An Interview With Dr. Zakiya Luna
In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Zakiya Luna. Dr. Luna is an Associate Professor of Sociology, a Dean’s Distinguished Professorial Scholar, a great friend of mine, an author, and a participant in Deeply Rooted.
EP. 118 What Happens When We Increase Our STRESS Capacity?
Stress has become an unavoidable side effect of life as a high-achieving woman.My goal is not to help you become stress-free but to help you have freedom from stress.
EP. 117 Are you STRESS Aware?
Stress is everywhere; it impacts everyone and pervades all aspects of our lives. And over time it can negatively impact your health and well-being. How you manage stress is related to your thoughts about yourself, your relationship with yourself, your relationship with others, your relationship with your work, and your relationship with your epic sh*t.
EP. 116 Come Fail With Me! My Challenge To You
I know it is the eve of Valentine’s Day, but guess what? I won’t be talking about love in this episode. Instead, I want to continue the conversation around failure because I want us as black women to drop the mask, do our epic sh*t, and embrace failure along the journey.