Attached to form means that you are attached to the way you think something is supposed to look. You have a singular idea of how you are supposed to achieve something.
For example, let’s say your goal is to have an amazing relationship or even marriage. And so you are dating a wonderful person and that relationship does not work out. If you are attached to form then your grieving process of the loss of that relationship would be extreme because your attachment would be that this relationship was the one, the only one, through which you could have an amazing relationship/marriage. That is attachment to form.
The fact is that what you want is an amazing relationship/marriage and it could come through any relationship but you have decided that this failed relationship was your only opportunity. The problem with going through life attached to form is that we miss so many other opportunities in our lives and it leads to misery.
Queens, this is a scarcity mindset. It’s a construct made up in our minds. There is no singular way to be happy, content, successful, or to create epic shit. You have the opportunity to release the attachment so that you can maximize the various opportunities that you are exposed to. Listen in to learn how.
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LISTEN TO PAST EPISODES…
EP. 130 I’m Spilling The Tea Of My Stress Journey
Sometimes we become so lost in what’s going on around us that we lose touch with the most important person in our lives, ourselves. Checking in with yourself means making intentional steps to pay attention to how you feel on an emotional, mental, and physical level. So, when was the last time you checked in on yourself?
EP. 129 The DISCOMFORT ZONE: How To Embrace It
This episode is a call to embrace discomfort.Most of us embrace comfort and resist anything that may lead to discomfort. This is because we can only embrace what we are not afraid of. Evolutionary wise, we were designed to seek comfort– to seek pleasure and to stay the same.
EP. 126 Stop Apologizing To You For YOU!
Apologizing to you for being you is like you have this, “ I’m sorry, I am the way I am” kind of vibe going on. This may not be something that you do subconsciously or even to other people…
EP. 125 She Wanted To Quit: A Conversation With My Client Maïmouna Diop
Have you ever wanted to quit something? I’m sure you have…most everyone at some point in life feels like throwing in the towel when something gets hard or frustrating.
EP. 122 Redefining GOODT ENUFF
In this week’s conversation, I’m expanding on the discussion started in last week’s episode, EP. 121 Bad Things Happen To Good Girls, around the good girl syndrome. Last week I shared that we think if we are living by the standard of the good girl, then the good girl doesn’t have problems, and so we believe having a problem is a problem, but it’s not.
EP. 121 Bad Things Happen To Good Girls
From childhood, many women are socialized to please others, at the cost of their own well-being or needs. The world is screaming: If you’re good, nothing bad will happen to you. And so we adopt the idea that good girls don’t upset people, good girls don’t put herself first, good girls don’t disappoint others.