Attached to form means that you are attached to the way you think something is supposed to look. You have a singular idea of how you are supposed to achieve something.
For example, let’s say your goal is to have an amazing relationship or even marriage. And so you are dating a wonderful person and that relationship does not work out. If you are attached to form then your grieving process of the loss of that relationship would be extreme because your attachment would be that this relationship was the one, the only one, through which you could have an amazing relationship/marriage. That is attachment to form.
The fact is that what you want is an amazing relationship/marriage and it could come through any relationship but you have decided that this failed relationship was your only opportunity. The problem with going through life attached to form is that we miss so many other opportunities in our lives and it leads to misery.
Queens, this is a scarcity mindset. It’s a construct made up in our minds. There is no singular way to be happy, content, successful, or to create epic shit. You have the opportunity to release the attachment so that you can maximize the various opportunities that you are exposed to. Listen in to learn how.
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