Attached to form means that you are attached to the way you think something is supposed to look. You have a singular idea of how you are supposed to achieve something.
For example, let’s say your goal is to have an amazing relationship or even marriage. And so you are dating a wonderful person and that relationship does not work out. If you are attached to form then your grieving process of the loss of that relationship would be extreme because your attachment would be that this relationship was the one, the only one, through which you could have an amazing relationship/marriage. That is attachment to form.
The fact is that what you want is an amazing relationship/marriage and it could come through any relationship but you have decided that this failed relationship was your only opportunity. The problem with going through life attached to form is that we miss so many other opportunities in our lives and it leads to misery.
Queens, this is a scarcity mindset. It’s a construct made up in our minds. There is no singular way to be happy, content, successful, or to create epic shit. You have the opportunity to release the attachment so that you can maximize the various opportunities that you are exposed to. Listen in to learn how.
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EP. 131 Feeling TRAPPED? Listen to this!
Feeling trapped for us as black women is very common. Feeling trapped can lead to an increase of stress hormones, and if it continues for a long, it can also lead to completely disengaging with our lives where we will go from fighting it or fleeing it to saying f*@k it.
EP. 130 I’m Spilling The Tea Of My Stress Journey
Sometimes we become so lost in what’s going on around us that we lose touch with the most important person in our lives, ourselves. Checking in with yourself means making intentional steps to pay attention to how you feel on an emotional, mental, and physical level. So, when was the last time you checked in on yourself?
EP. 127 Life Shifting & Moving From Self-Judgement To Self-Compassion
In this episode, we’re catching up with two of my former clients from a year and a half – two years ago, Ruth and Marcia. I’ve brought you several conversations on this podcast with high-achieving women while they’re in the coaching container
EP. 126 Stop Apologizing To You For YOU!
Apologizing to you for being you is like you have this, “ I’m sorry, I am the way I am” kind of vibe going on. This may not be something that you do subconsciously or even to other people…
EP. 123 Suffering and the GOODT Black Women MENTALITY
Continuing our conversation from episodes, EP. 121 Bad Things Happen To Good Girls and EP. 122 Redefining GOODT ENUFF, today we are talking about suffering. As we discussed previously, we have certain thought errors that are holding us back from growing and thriving in our epic-ness. When we think that we’re not being the “good girl” , problems happen, then we make it a problem that we have a problem.
EP. 122 Redefining GOODT ENUFF
In this week’s conversation, I’m expanding on the discussion started in last week’s episode, EP. 121 Bad Things Happen To Good Girls, around the good girl syndrome. Last week I shared that we think if we are living by the standard of the good girl, then the good girl doesn’t have problems, and so we believe having a problem is a problem, but it’s not.